4) These theories take "a static view of time, the griever
, and the deceased," a view that imagines memory as fixed, a healthy emotional state as homeostatic, and an end-point as within reach (McCabe 48-52).
Several hours into extremely acrimonious negotiations over the aesthetics of the fence, the grievers
asserted for the first time that the reason they were making their complaint was that the gap between the bottom of the fence and the ground made the fence a danger for small children who might get their heads stuck.
Essentially, complicated grievers
get "stuck" in the course of their grief, concentrating on the traumatic aspects of the death and unable to proceed through the normal bereavement process.
The suggestion that confrontation may be an unrewarding gesture is an ideal starting point for this article's interrogation of Vizenor's Griever
as a story of freedom frustrated rather than liberty achieved, a reading that necessarily includes a closer look at the artist's concept of "trickster liberation.
Hirsch even looks at the griever
who does not believe, like himself, but wishes he could in order to find peace or relief from grief:
attacked and kill some of the Gladers, including Alby.
According to the DPM, grievers
should oscillate between the loss-oriented and restoration-oriented dimensions; problems can occur when they do not (Stroebe & Schut, 2001).
It is aptly described as a "roadmap through grief," featuring four stories of different losses, and 40 separate suggested activities to help the griever
get in touch with his/her reaction and work through the process.
6) For additional background information on the surveys, see Griever
, Lee, and Warnock (2001); Bertaut, Griever
, and Tryon (2006); and the annual survey reports released by the Treasury Department available at www .
Once he died, she wanted to love him more than anyone, to be his only griever
, and it made her jealous to think of people knowing him in ways she might have had he lived longer.
Thus the reckless interpretation of freedom by the West and the vengeful response of the Muslim world have created an endless battle of the aggrieved and the griever
In breaking down the griever
by personality types, this uses research results and anecdotes from working with the bereaved over a ten-year-period to explore the different approaches.