Unlike that of divine reconciliation, forgivers
must first see, by reasonable evidence, that the offender is now trustworthy (even though it is still a risk).
aps once he realises that, n't be asking for forgiver
what he has done, but be asking for forgiveness hat he said, and all the he hurt along the way.
Because he became a teacher, a healer, a forgiver
, who is known even more for his death on a cross than for his birth, his birth tells us God coming in weakness did not stop when he got older.
Forgiveness cannot occur if the forgiver
does not know what it is and how to do it.
For example, Jean Amery stakes out his position as a militant Holocaust survivor and disturber of the peace by contrasting himself with Levi whom he erroneously labeled "a forgiver
We know what God is like therefore imitate what he did, be a helper, a comforter, a forgiver
of other people", he said.
In her cycle "Country of grief and grace" in Down to my last skin, it is apparent that "grace" is the state of having been forgiven and of having been permitted to go with the forgiver
into a future that, in the absence of forgiveness, would have been a divided one.
A person forgives when the forgiver
experiences a change of heart, giving up the ressentiment toward the wrongdoer, to use Nietzsche's term, that wrongdoing naturally inspires.
benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgiver
If all six elements are present, the forgiver
should be able to feel increased trust in the wrongdoer, and should thus sequentially he able to forswear revenge, moderate resentment, let resentment go, and, finally, see the wrongdoer in a new, no longer wholly negative light.
He suggests that forgiveness can occur only when the forgiver
establishes that the wrongdoer accepts responsibility for their actions, promises not to commit the action again, and there is an opportunity for compensation (see also Williamson & Gonzalez, 2007).
But something passes between the forgiver
and the forgiven that changes them both.