Shame has a habit of showing up when we are feeling at our most vulnerable.
Reflecting on your own experiences can help to develop awareness and to treat yourself more kindly when shame shows up.
EXCLUSION: THIS can be a particularly painful type of shame. People are generally social creatures and thrive when they belong to a larger group or community.
Shame is a natural emotion but it can get in the way of living the lives we want.
literature on the inner feelings of shame describes an emotional harm so
rather than causing internal feelings of shame. (94) Similarly to other
Internalized shame can manifest in very specific patterns; it is not a unidimensional emotional state.
As previously stated, high multidimensional levels of shame, especially when they are derived from early childhood adversity, increase anxiety, dissociative and emotion-oriented coping strategies, and symptoms of post-traumatic stress and subsequently decrease the sense of self-esteem.
Current shame theory indicates that shame is learned as a young child as a defense mechanism that teaches the child to abide by their caregivers' expectations.
Some counselors consider shame and guilt to be symptoms of wounds deeper than physical or psychological harm--wounds that injure the basic "soul" of a person, referred to as a "moral injury." (5) Moral injury is its own separate trauma with symptoms that can include feelings of shame, guilt, betrayal, regret, anxiety, anger, self-loathing and self-harm.
The 2016 election, fraught with shame
, came and went.
The purpose of this paper, however, is not to sift through Bion's work searching for shame
. Rather, I want to use some of his theoretical ideas to start to think about shame
affects based on realisations that have emerged in my work with shame-prone patients.